Keep Your Friends Close

This is Geneva:

king-dayI stole this picture from a funny post on her blog—hope that’s okay, Geneva.

About a million years ago (back in September of 2007), I entered a giveaway on her blog, Hazardous Undertakings. The giveaway was supposed to be randomly selected, but I tried to sway the vote by leaving this comment:

“Ooo, la la! I love random giveaways, especially with Genevra! If you “randomly” pick me, I will write a post about you on my blog…and it will be good.”

Guess who won? A randomly-generated winner…AND me!  Geneva was so intrigued by my offer, she decided to make two winners.  The next month, when I was in Arizona for a wedding, I saw Genevra {oh yeah, I have called her GenevRA ever since high school…it just flows nicely, and I don’t think she minds}, and she hand-delivered my prize in a homemade origami box (which was amazing, truly).

necklace3My loot, a “Wear With Absolutely Everything Necklace.” Image from here.

See, Genevra and I go way back.  I met her my sophomore year of high school (Grade 10, Canadians), and we were acquaintances throughout our days as Warriors.  We participated in marching band at the same time (just for one year, before I figured out how lame it was), and Student Council (for three years).  During our senior year (Grade 12, Canadians), we even competed in a ridiculous beauty pageantand hated every second of it—together.

Genevra was—and still is—incredibly smart.  She was the valedictorian for our class (Class of ’04)—actually, I can never remember if it was between Genevra or Latherine Stunning* who ended up the first in our class, but for the sake of this post, we’ll say she was.  At any rate, she was right up there.  Despite her class rank being very impressive, I remember lots more about Genevra from high school.  Probably my most dominant memory of High School Genevra is this:

One day in Student Council, Genevra was talking to Fo Rominguez* about something—I don’t know what—and I heard her say, “I am good at math.  I ROCK at math.  No, seriously…I’m really really good at math.”

I thought to myself, “What the heck?  Who is this person, to just go around saying how good she is at everything?”  {As an aside, I’m pretty much LOUSY at math, and I was a little bitter.  Obviously.}  It bothered me for a long time, maybe even years.  BEAR WITH ME, GENEVRA; IT GETS BETTER! After a while, though, I found myself reflecting on that brief interaction, and I felt my opinion slowly changing.  So Genevra was good at math, and she knew it.  So what? Is there anything wrong with having confidence in one’s own strengths?  I don’t think so—and if there is, there shouldn’t be.  {I’m an idealist like that—more concerned with how things should be than how things are.}

Eventually, I decided to embrace a little bit of Genevra’s attitude in my own life.  I have tried the whole “act-like-I-don’t-think-I’m-good-at-anything-so-people-will-tell-me-that-yes-Camille-you-are” route, and guess what?  It’s annoying.  People who do that…are annoying. Yes, I am well aware of my many many faults {many many MANY faults}, but I am also secure enough—like Genevra taught me—to know that I am a good person in lots of ways.

Is this arrogant?  Maybe a little.  But it’s better than being a tiny, timid, mousy little thing who needs other people’s good opinions to make it through the day.

Isn’t it amazing how one seemingly-insignificant moment can have such a profound impact?  Probably Genevra doesn’t even remember that day (although she might, because, like we’ve already established, she has the brain of a rocket scientist), but I do.  And not only do I remember that day, but I think of it often, especially when I need a pep-talk in self-confidence {which, hello, is every day}.

So essentially, Genevra has changed my life.

Oh, and by the way, the Wear With Absolutely Everything Necklace? Let’s just say, not only does Geneva rock at math, but she also works wonders with beads and a toggle clasp.  I really can wear this necklace with absolutely anything:

Ode to Genevra’s Multi-purpose Necklace:

In a BathrobeI could wear it nights and days…

I could wear it plucking straysI could wear it tweezing strays…

I Could Wear it Gussied UpI could wear it gussied up…

I Could Really Strut My StuffI could really strut my stuff…

Just Today I Wore it for CamerasJust today, it surfaced for cameras…

I Wear With Pajamas…and even looked great with my favourite pajamas.

Thanks, Genevra, for changing my life, and helping me accessorise with ease! You really do rock at math, and I’m sorry I was jealous.

Everybody go visit her blog to see her exciting news.  Tell her I sent you.

*Names modified to protect the innocent and cover my back.

About Camille

I'm Camille. I have a butt-chin. I live in Canada. I was born in Arizona. I like Diet Dr. Pepper. Hello. You can find me on Twitter @archiveslives, Facebook at, instagram at ArchivesLives, and elsewhere.
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19 Responses to Keep Your Friends Close

  1. raygon says:

    ohhhh, I am the first to post! how exciting for me!
    I love that little necklace. You are right, it goes with everything. It is too cute!

    So is your dark hair. I love it.

  2. Anonymous says:

    I think it’s great to have such self-confidence. I wish I had that. And you are right; that necklace does go with everything. Of course, it has a beautiful model, so that’s always a plus!

  3. Chloe says:

    … I’m afraid I’m that “tiny, timid, mousy little thing”… I wish I had self-confidence…
    Humm. OK, I’ll make an effort to say something I’m good at. Humm. Humm. Humm.
    Yes! I’m good at Singstar®! I’m unbeatable! Ho, ho!
    That’s it! I said it! This moment will make history! Ha, ha!

  4. Maureen says:

    Haha, Chloe, I am so bad at Singstar! My friend took a video of me and another friend playing it and I wish she would send it to me because it is probably hilarious.

    But anyway, Camille, after reading this and your friend’s post, I now want to make my own jewelry and travel to Venice and Greece and wherever else. Ahh, maybe someday…

  5. ann marie says:

    I agree! I like confident people also..
    The only thing that bugs me worse than people fishing for compliments is the VERY SKINNY girls that always say they are fat. Bugs way bad.

    * Thanks for the link today! Glad I found out his “real” name, and the fact that he eats it too? So sick.. and funny.

  6. ann marie says:

    Oh and.. very cute pictures of you..
    Love the necklace..

  7. Geneva says:

    Ha! Camille you are too funny. The other half of that conversation was probably, “But for some reason Algebra II is kicking my butt!” And karma caught up with me and made math my WORST subject for the rest of high school. Like, “can I get more practice problems because I still don’t understand any of this after three hours?” Yes that’s in quotes because I actually said it.

    And ironically, all of high school was spent between telling myself “hey, self, you’re good at stuff” and a constant nausea from feeling inadequate about everything.

    Glad you like the necklace, thanks for the awesome post, and please don’t hold high school against me!

  8. Geneva says:

    oh, and in the spirit of confidence, I actually was valedictorian. But I try and keep that a secret of my deep dark past.

  9. HeatherPride says:

    See, everyone needs to find something they rock at! Thanks for the recommendation, I love meeting new bloggers!

  10. Christal says:

    you are so cute and your right the necklace looks great with everything. So do you have a good timer or does pk take your pictures for you !! I just realized when I graduated HS when you were in grade two holy I’m old!!!

  11. Jami says:

    First of all…you look so freaking good!
    Second…I love Genevra too, and I have the same necklace! HA!
    Third…I agree that it is good to notice your strengths, and your weaknesses!

  12. Camille says:

    raygon— Thanks, to both!

    anonymous my sister— You can be self-confident, too. You’re much better than me, so I don’t see why not…

    Chloe— I don’t know what Singstar™ is, but I MUST find out! It sounds cool. Way to take a stand for yourself!

    Maureen— I know. I read about Geneva’s trip and I knew I had to post this today, so I could get over my sadness that she’s going to Greece and I am not. : )

    ann marie— Thanks, and you’re welcome! I’m glad you hadn’t seen it—I like being the first to tell people about something good.

    Geneva— Oh, I’m glad you liked it. I was worried it might come off the wrong way. I should say the same thing—don’t hold high school against me! (I had a feeling you’d set me straight on the valedictorian thing.) : )

    HeatherPride— You’re very welcome!

    Christal— How funny! I had no idea. But that’s even cooler, because it means I can be friends with people even if they DID graduate when I was in grade two… Makes me feel all grown up.

    Jami— First, thank you! Second, we’re winning twins (I almost said “winner twinners,” but I couldn’t do it). Third, it’s the only way to go.

  13. Mikelle says:

    Haha. I like how you changed the names, but we all still know who you are talking about.

  14. Chloe says:

    Singstar is a video game for playstation:

  15. Chloe says:

    Oh, and there’s also a version for PC, called Ultrastar. :)
    It’s a great game!

  16. Hahahahahaha! I laughed so hard when I saw the picture of you in your robe!

    Thank you!

  17. Carmen says:

    You are so photogenic! You look amazing in all those pictures. I am still wondering if Kyle takes them or you do. If you have answered this question yet again, I am sorry. Maybe post a comment on my blog or email me. I completely agree with this post. Also love that necklace by the way. It definitely is a wear all. Good luck on the last week of school. Summer is coming!!

  18. k so weird that the other day, she and I were out to lunch and we talked about A. How smart she is.
    B. you in high school

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