This is the Song That Never Ends.

In the office {next to our bedroom where I’m typing this}, Poor Kyle is humming the tune to Jason Mraz’s “I’m Yours,” which is already about as sweet as it can be, but Poor Kyle adds in all kinds of runs and trills—he really fancies it up, and it’s just precious.  {As he’s reading this, he’s groaning and rolling his eyes, hoping none of his friends read my blog.}

PK Teacups

You will probably never have the good fortune of hearing Poor Kyle sing—he’s incredibly shy about it, but he has a fantastic voice.  He even wrote me a song once, with guitar parts, and lyrics, and everything!  A real song. {Cue more groans—sorry, PK!}  It’s a lovely song, and I have a recording of it, but if I ever posted it on this blog, he would probably morph into an Incredible Hulk-ish Husband and strangle me in my sleep or something.  Well, he’s not violent, so that would be a stretch, but you get what I’m saying: he’d be MAD—no, he’d be MADD, with two Ds.  Really madd.

Poor Kyle MadMad like this—I see this expression more often than you might expect.

Anyway, the point is, Poor Kyle is a musical fellow, without even having any formal training.  In the time it’s taken me to write this, he has picked out riffs of “I’m Yours” and morphed them into a techno version of a different song altogether.  He could hum to himself this way for hours—and he does.  Parts of one song will remind him of another good tune, so he’ll start singing that, and then he’ll think, “I bet a whistle would sound really good with this,” so he throws in a couple of those.  He’ll drum his hands on his chest, the desk, his knees—any solid surface within reach will do.  If he’s working on the computer, he even clicks the mouse in beat to the rhythm of the moment.  It’s like he’s got an entire band inside his brain.  He goes on and on, and there’s really no telling where one song ends and another begins.  I don’t know how he gets any work done with all the tunes floating through his mind, but it must be what makes him tick.

Toothless WonderIt’s hard to take him seriously when he’s just so goofy.

I’m musical, too, but in a completely opposite way.  I compartmentalise.  When I’m being musical, I focus on the music; when I’m writing, I only write.  I can’t mesh the two together.  For example, if I’m trying to write a blog post, but there’s music playing on another blog’s playlist, I get totally distracted by the melodies and words trickling from my speakers, and can’t seem to think up any words of my own.  I don’t know how Poor Kyle can focus on html and xhtml and CSS and all that other technological nonsense, with the music in his mind running at exactly 120 beats per minute.

Also, I’ve taken piano lessons and flute lessons for as long as I can remember (well, not the flute anymore), and when I sit to learn a song, I’ve been taught to drill it into my brain.  No varying from the written music—no nuances.  I learn the songs how they’re written, and that’s that.  Poor Kyle, on the other hand, learns guitar chords off of YouTube™, and then puts them together in his own ways—ways that work.  I could no sooner improvise a lovely tune than I could squeeze juice from a novel, but Poor Kyle?  He’s a pro at it.

Night and DayLike night and day, we are.

I hesitate to post this, because I know he’s going to read it and become insecure, thinking his quirkiness bothers me—but it doesn’t.  In a way, it’s symbolic of our lives together.  I’m intense about my life the same way I’m intense about my music: I play by the rules; I don’t really vary from the guidelines; I practise and practise (at music, at writing, at communicating, at losing weight), hoping that I’m improving in some small way.  You might think I’m easy-going just because I’m funny (ho, ho!), but really, I’m quite regimented.  I don’t like change or variations to my routines; I don’t improvise my music, and I don’t improvise my life [if I can avoid it].

Poor Kyle is 180° different—he’s laid back with his plans; he’s an extremely flexible, fly-by-the-seat-of-his-pants sort of guy…

PK Plays Guitar…though you’d never know it to look at him.

He makes changes in his life as easily as he can alter the songs in his head—one change after another, taking them all in stride.  His music never ends, and thank goodness: if the song ends, it will probably mean that he’s been around me for too long.  I like the song just how it is right this minute; and if it’s a little different in thirty seconds, I’ll like it then, too.

Glad to Be Together

{I think I married exactly the right person for me.}

About Camille

I'm Camille. I have a butt-chin. I live in Canada. I was born in Arizona. I like Diet Dr. Pepper. Hello. You can find me on Twitter @archiveslives, Facebook at facebook.com/archivesofourlives, instagram at ArchivesLives, and elsewhere.
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19 Responses to This is the Song That Never Ends.

  1. It is so obvious how much you love him! Really cute post! I am glad you found him.

  2. anna says:

    I’m super intense and my husband is totally laid back. Sometimes it drives me crazy, but usually I’m calm enough to realize if he were like me, we’d kill each other. If I were like him, we’d never get anything done.

    PK’s mad face looks so much like Dwight from the Office. Seriously.

    Yeah, we’re friends. Yeah, I didn’t make a whole lot of sense. Yeah, I’ll explain it a little more.

    PS It takes A LOT to offend me… certainly pointing out the obvious is not offensive… unless it has something to do with one of my insecurities. :)

  3. Anonymous says:

    I never knew this about PK. Maybe he will give us a concert when he’s here next. Scratch that. I know he won’t. He will think that Clint would think it’s dumb, so he wouldn’t do it. Dang Clint! He ruins all the fun.

    It is interesting how opposites attract. When I was reading this about you and PK, I couldn’t help but think that’s how Clint and I are. Interesting. At the same time, though, they are very much like us.

  4. Allison says:

    I must tell you Mike taps. A very loud annoying TAP. In fact I can’t figure out how he TAPS so loud. It is never to any particular tune. Just loud, never ending TAPS. It is so bad, on Christmas I got a wooden spoon from his mother so I could whap him every time the tapping bothers me. He says it is a part of him, but for my sanity, he is working hard to squelch the habit… It wouldn’t be so bad if there was some sort of rhythm to it, but I’d never admit that to him.

  5. Chloe says:

    Wow! the secrets of Poor Kyle!!!! ;)
    Despite your differences, you are made for each other :) I’m so happy for you!

    P.S.: I’ve also taken piano and flute lessons!

  6. Camille says:

    Emily Merkley—Thank you! Sometimes I worry he gets a bad rap on this website. I do love him, very much.

    Anna—PK is going to love that you think he looks like Dwight (not). Somebody once SWORE he looked like Jack Black, and he got all offended. : ) I’m so glad we’re still friends.

    Anonymous my sister—I know. We married twins, but only sort of.

    Allison—THAT’S FUNNY! And so nice of him to try and overcome. He must love you, if he’s givin’ up the taps!

    Chloe—That’s cool! You should post a video of you playing your instruments!

  7. linda rae says:

    aaawww…what a cute post. I should remind Kyle of his Primary chorister saying that he was a great little singer way back when.

    And playing music by ear…that’s a maternal family trait.

    the MIL

  8. oh i’ve heard him sing, he’s pretty good and humerous. it was FOREVER ago when he got his 1st cd player (i didn’t even know what it was and was confused why it was so much better then a tape player) he sang if i had a million dollars by barenaked lady. i still remember laughing my head off cause he was quite funny singing it.

  9. Christal says:

    awww perfect post! Love all the pictures. I to hate change its really hard for me I like routine and knowing what is going on in my life. Maybe kyle should sing for our next christmas party I know he is dying to right {probably a big improvement from last year ha ha!!} ps tell Kyle Kolt is now in his class I talked to Terra and I’m just much happier that he will be with good kids and all the kids in his grade I’m hoping he will love primary again he’s had a hard time since they moved up. SO we’ll see how it goes but he already seems much happier about it when I told him. Anyway have a great day! Hey also does tish just have a bunch of bags for sale at home? One’s she doesn’t have to sew up for us or did you special order yours?? ttys

  10. Christal says:

    ps Darren has the same country boy shirt we love our country boys eh!! And all the spunk that goes with it!!

  11. HeatherPride says:

    He’s a keeper. And how funny that “I’m Yours” has been in my head all day long and then I come here and see that it’s in PK’s head too!

  12. Jami says:

    this post was so wonderful. What a tribute to your husband. I feel the same way about Spencer, but I am not a good writter, and can’t put my thoughts to words.
    I am sure that PK loved this post…but just won’t admitt it.

  13. Camille says:

    Linda Rae—I’m sure Poor Kyle loves being reminded of his childhood exploits! Probably just as much as he loves being featured on my blog.

    kristy stanford—What a good story! I get a kick out of hearing PK growing-up stories. Thanks for sharing!

    Christal—I emailed you. And yes, I’m a huge fan of my country boy. I bought him that shirt, in fact!

    HeatherPride—Maybe YOU should have married PK! But then that would leave The Skipper left with me, and I’m sure he’d not like that. : )

    Jami—Thanks for saying so! I feel like PK gets too abused on this website sometimes, so it’s good to remind people that I really do love him.

  14. anonymous says:

    i wouldn’t have expected that. haha how cute!

  15. I think you married the right guy too.
    He balances you quite nicely.

  16. jethro says:

    I don’t know if it’s in the blood, but i have the head music too.
    Soothes my savage beast.

  17. AlexaMae says:

    you guys are a super cute couple! gotta give a hats off to a musical man. chellis likes to take songs, usually my favorite songs, and make up his own words whilst the song is playing, therefore ruining the song at that moment. it’s funny 90% of the time. ya….90%. do you wanna know what i do the other 10%? i get madd. yep, with 2 D’s. you are looking mighty thin and gorgeous by the way. you have a lovely profile. lucky! i hate my profile.

  18. Marion Naylor says:

    Good post. Camille. I love to hear about my grandson’s musical ability, good to see “natural music” getting the right ratings. Ill bet he has perfect pitch too.

  19. Geneva says:

    Such a beautiful post Camille! Will you tell PK that I think his web design work looks fantastic?

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